Friday, 5 March 2021

Three Feet

Sometimes I wonder, I can hardly see things clearly beyond 3 feet, yet I am handling huge responsibilities. I started my career as a Management Trainee and I thought it will be a piece of cake, but, it wasn’t. There were some very low points and some high points in this journey. Being disabled is not easy, especially when it is not physically visible. Initially, I was not around very kind people, they used to make fun of my problem and saw me as a nuisance. They underestimated and doubted my capability, I felt I can never compete with normal people. I was constantly demotivated by others and they always used make me realise that I can never be good enough. It still brings tears to my eyes when I think of that phase, I was shattered, why the world is filled with these many insensitive/unkind people.

I will admit, all this criticism has brought me where I am today. I never let them overtake my abilities. I think it made me stronger and bolder. If one desires to learn, He/She can Learn anything and achieve everything, that’s what has helped me to be an outstanding performer. Its been six years and now I am a Store Manager, still, the journey continues.

 

                                                           My Supportive Colleagues


Fortunately, I also met some really good people, they understood me and extended their support whenever needed. They recognized my true potential and the best part was being treated equally and not as a disabled person. I was on cloud nine when I got promoted, it was because of my hard work and the guidance from my colleagues. It was their trust in me that motivated me, they believed in me. life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving and  Never let any problem to effect your work nor use it as an excuse to avoid any work. No one is Perfect


               

                   Dreams can come true if you have the courage to pursue them                          

 

I believe, you either get bitter or get better. It is that simple, you either take what has been dealt with you and allow it to make you a better person or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, It belongs to you and only you.

 

                 

                    What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

Thursday, 7 January 2021

The Fear Fighter

How Many of us hold back in our lives, even just a little because of some fear?

I think the answer to that is, probably everyone. “The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear”

Let me ask you, What is fear and Where does it come from?

Fear means being afraid of the unknown, the anxiety of uncertainty that builds as you prepare to do something that you’ve never done/experienced before. This unknown entity can be an act, a person, a situation or anything which is out of our comfort zone. Fear comes from our mind and imagination. Almost all our fears are self-created because of the negative thoughts which can hamper our confidence in ourselves. We get scared, that something bad might happen, that is the origin of fear.

 


Let's take the example of some of my fears, the most unpleasant one is losing my vision, then losing my job and the most common one is the fear of failure. Just like me, many people have fear of failure and because of this many of us give up without even trying, we let the fear overpower our courage.

 I have learned over the years that you should not stop trying new things just because you don’t want to fail in that. My life didn’t go exactly as I had planned, and I am sure yours hasn’t either. Even if we plan things out, it won’t happen as predicted, things never go the way you want (most of the time).

With every step, I’m making my way with all the obstacles around. Trust me, if you’re not willing to risk, you cannot grow, if you cannot grow, you cannot give your best, if you are not giving your best then you cannot be happy and if you are not happy then what's there to live for? Take a minute and think about it.

 

As we continue our journey, sometimes we regret that we could have or we might have/should have tried to conquer our fear.

A coin has 2 sides and so does the fear– “forget everything & run away” or “Fight back and rise “, the choice is yours. There is always a way that fear serves a valuable purpose, help us breakthrough to achieve what we truly desire. If we allow then fear can become an ultimate tool to grow in life.

Many times I wonder I would not have reached where I’m today, without overcoming my fears I wouldn’t be the person I am now. Fear has given me strength, courage and confidence to make a change, to start living the life I want.  

 


Now the question arises, how can we overcome our fears. It is not so difficult actually. Try to do a thing (which you are afraid of doing) at least 3 times, the first time to get over the fear of doing it, the second time to learn how to do it and third time to figure out whether you like it or not.

 

For the last few months, we all have lived with the same fear of COVID-19 pandemic which has changed the way we live and work. Many of us feel anxious during this time, Coronavirus fear is difficult for anyone to handle. However, we have been patient, stayed together and fought back(still doing). Let's hope for a better and safer future.

 In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.

 

Darr ke aage Jeet hai :)

 


Wednesday, 28 October 2020

Embracing the Change

“We think we plan our journey, the fact is journey plan things for us”

We all Want a planned Life where everything will go according to our plans. In this desire, we forget to think that life is an unknown journey where we don’t lead paths but paths lead us.

 

After getting placed in a good company I thought my life is sorted and things will become easier for me to handle. I felt, finally I am independent and queen of my own world. However, things didn’t turn up as I expected them to be.

What you see     What I see


I have Stargardt's Disease and It comes with different challenges, such as Numbers on the bus are not of my use, wristwatches are only a styling element for my outfit and grocery shopping is just another science assignment with magnifying glasses. Often my eye and brain confront each other to recognise the face that passes-by. Many times it has happened that I cannot recognize if the person walking towards me is someone I know, or is a stranger.


I Realised that I cant see how I used to see, and that realisation did send me to a dark place, where I felt things are falling apart. And over time, I understood that  “I can't change the direction of the wind but I can adjust my sail to always reach my destination” and trust me it is like eating Dark chocolate which is bitter in taste  and you like the bitterness of dark chocolate, so I started liking the bitterness of my life and understood that changes happen for a reason, and the faster we can adapt and move on, the better it will be for us.

    My equipment for aiding the vision


It is like seasonal changes which are not in our control, but still, we accept the changes and adapt to it by refashioning our dressing style. In our life as well, there are times where not everything is in our control, an unexpected situation arises, therefore, we should come out of our comfort zone and be prepared for challenges coming our way.

 

I know acceptance can be difficult, however, It is something we must concur. It helps in recovering from painful things that happened. Given the challenges I started facing, the first thing I did, was to accept it. I said to myself, there are things I can't see what I usually used to see. this acceptance has lead to a better version of myself.

 

I adapted to several changes like, I started using special equipment for aiding my vision which are the telescope, magnifying glasses. I started learning about software to help me work on system, I practised typing without looking at the keyboard, I have started asking for help where ever required this was a big transformation for me as from being independent to dependent for small things and after this change in my life I have never looked in my past. As rightly said living in the present moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future, it allows you to build a whole world that will then become your legacy.


Ups and downs are part of our life which makes our life worth it. Even a 3-hour movie without a drama becomes boring, just thinking without ups and downs how monotonous and worthless your life will be? Life is full of Good and bad days which comes and goes, we need to change our perspective of how we look at it. Whatever comes our way we should Embrace every situation, then only we can enjoy life. Be happy and face everything with a big smile on your face. Your smile will bring a positive atmosphere around you and with that Smile only, I have never let my low vision come in my way. It has not stopped me from doing things which I wanted to do. With the utmost passion and will power, I have not stopped dreaming.

 

  My ability is stronger than my disability”

Friday, 4 September 2020

The Turning Point

The school life is over and now comes the next phase of life, THE COLLEGE. College is the place where we have more fun and less studies. I was interested in commerce and business studies, so I opted for BBM (Bachelor of Business Management) in UG. During those days, we used to wait for all kind of event (Literally) to bunk the classes. We just needed an excuse to escape from the boring lectures, so, we participated in every cultural activity where most of the time we used to win without much preparation. This experiences made me bold and flexible, Now I could adjust in any situation, ready to take up  the challenges. This is how 3 years went and I completed my BBM degree.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       College Queen


    I decided to do MBA and moved to Bengaluru to pursue it. Namma Bengaluru!!! It’s famous for being the Silicon Valley of India, pleasant weather, lush green gardens and serene lakes. I met new people in this new city and soon got adjusted to it. A college is a place where more than the subject we focus on gossips and we are always there to safeguard of our friends in any situation like, relationship advice, exam time, project completion, Attendance proxy, making boring lectures interesting and the funniest part was finishing the lunch box before the break in between lectures, roaming in college. Indeed, HAR EK FRIEND ZARURI HOTA HAI

One year went by, I was facing difficulty to see the blackboard clearly and I thought of getting a routine eye check-up done. Next what happened completely changed my life!!!!!!

It was 9th May 2014, I went to Narayana Nethrayalaya where they did the eye test and found a scar on my left eye retina. For confirmation, I underwent a full retina scan. When the report came, I found out I was diagnosed with a very rare eye condition known as  STARGARDT. The moment I got to know, I felt that doctor is speaking in Greek o german, as I had no idea what they were saying. After a few more tests, It was confirmed that I indeed have SD(Stargardt). As for many of you this word would be completely stranger,

Here’s the scientific definition of SD, Stargardt disease is a form of macular degeneration, and is often called juvenile macular degeneration. Macular degeneration is when part of the retina that gives you central vision, called the macula, breaks down. In people with Stargardt disease, special light-sensing cells in the macula, called photoreceptors, die off. Central or detailed, vision becomes blurry or has dark areas. It may also be difficult to see colours well.

In layman’s terms, SD means being partially blind.

        This news came as a complete shock to me. I didn’t know whom to talk about this or how to cope up with it. The next big thing for me was to inform my parents about SD.I can't describe them  in words, how difficult it was for me to explain to  what exactly I was going through, I didn’t want them to get distressed. This phase of my life I can never forget. I was facing difficulties in studying on my own and the biggest challenge was to accept that I have this problem.

        I am grateful for my friends who stood by me and helped me in studies making sure I complete my projects, preparing for exams etc. They never made me feel that I have a problem and never treated me differently.


                                                      My College Friends

        I remember I used to think so much about this problem, due to which I was on the verge of depression. I thought all my dreams and goals turned to dust. I will have no future, nothing. I had almost given up. I used to think how did it happen, and WHY ME?

        The day I told dad about it, he just said one thing, “Don’t you worry, If you want you can come back home we all are there for you and you are so strong that you will fight it through to achieve your dreams”. Those words worked like magic and made me realise that I still have my vision and with that vision, I can do what I am capable of, from that moment, I never let eye problem come between my goal. I took small steps to adjust and complete my MBA. And then the other biggest question arrives -

There was the biggest question in front of me, Where and How am I going to get a job? When I discussed my eye problem with my college faculties, they advised me not to disclose this in any interview, that’s how I can get placed or else no chance. However, deep inside I felt it was wrong to hide such information from the employers just to get a job. I didn’t want to deceive anyone, If someone wants to hire me, they should recognise my capability, skills and not my disability.

        I prepared for job interviews and appeared for my first interview in one of the known company. There were 250 people applied for it, out of which only 5 got placed. My interview went for 45 minutes and towards the end, I told them that I have eye problem and It may get worse I might not be able to work on a computer. And to my surprise, I received the best answer , that was, “ To us, you look physically fit and fine, rest depends on you, how you take things further.” After coming out of the interview, I had no hope of getting selected. When the results were announced, My name was listed on top. My happiness knew no bounds and I couldn't control my tears. It was like a dream come true. I was not able to believe that I did it, I did it in the right way. Immediately I called my family and the first sentence they said was, “We are so proud of you Beta, despite facing such challenges you didn’t give up and you achieved your dreams with determination. We always believed in you, but above all, you had faith in yourself.”

        That’s how my college life was over. Too much happened during this phase. Someone rightly said-Life is full with ups and down the trick is to cherish and enjoy the good times and to have the courage to go through the bad ones which makes you stronger and stronger and stronger.

  

                      Never lose your smile

 

 The fourth step of success:

Surround yourself with good friends, who are always there in your good and bad times. It's always better if you express what you are going through to someone as it helps to overcome the problem, it gives strength to fight and to know we are not alone.

When there is a problem, do an RCA(root cause analysis) and find a solution instead of sitting and cribbing about it. Never give up on yourself no matter how broken you are, how difficult it gets, find strength through your close ones. Life is full unexpected turns, you will never know what is waiting for you, so keep bouncing.

Sunday, 2 August 2020